Tips for parents discussing custody issues during a divorce

On Behalf of | Oct 31, 2023 | Child Custody | 0 comments

The involvement of children can complicate divorce. In Tennessee, when parents decide to part ways, discussing custody arrangements becomes an important part of the separation.

By following a few tips and adhering to state laws, parents can make the process as smooth and stress-free as possible.

Open communication

The first step is to engage in open and respectful communication. Both parents must discuss their preferences and concerns regarding custody. It is important to keep the children’s best interests in mind, prioritizing their emotional and physical well-being.

Custody types

Tennessee recognizes both physical and legal custody. Physical custody refers to where the child resides, while legal custody pertains to decision-making authority. Parents must understand the differences and decide on the best arrangement.


Tennessee law encourages mediation as a means of resolving custody disputes. Parents should consider working with a qualified mediator to help facilitate discussions and reach a mutually agreeable custody arrangement.

Parenting plan and child’s best interests

The Tennessee Parenting Plan law came into effect in 2001. You can create a comprehensive plan that outlines all aspects of custody, including visitation schedules, holidays and decision-making responsibilities. A well-thought-out plan can prevent future conflicts.

Include provisions in the plan for potential modifications in the future. Life circumstances change, and your custody arrangement may need adjustments as well.

Try to use the parenting plan to make decisions based on what is in the child’s best interests. With these best interests in mind, try to develop a healthy co-parenting relationship with your ex-spouse. Effective co-parenting can ease the transition for your child and reduce tension.

Stability and consistency

Children thrive on stability and consistency. When discussing custody, strive to maintain a routine that provides a stable environment for your child.


Keep records of all communication and agreements related to custody. This can be valuable in case of future disputes. If your custody case has court involvement, respect and adhere to court orders.

Fortunately, it is absolutely possible for parents to foster a supportive and loving environment for children during a divorce.