After a divorce, it is not uncommon for the non-custodial parent to face challenges regarding the relationship he or she shares with your children. Unlike before, the non-custodial parent does not see the children every day.
According to Psychology Today, you may need to set aside your differences to encourage a relationship between your children and the non-custodial parent.
Put your children’s interests first
Sometimes it can be difficult not to think about your feelings in regard to your former spouse. After messy divorces, especially, parents tend to have difficulty meeting in the middle for the child’s best interests. Your children benefit from a meaningful relationship with both parents. Most of the time, the court agrees that the best interests of the children include a stable relationship with the parents, regardless of who has custody and who does not.
Prioritize communication about your children
As the custodial parent, you may have more information on doctor’s appointments, school events and other important occasions in your child’s life. When you do not communicate or stop including the other parent in your child’s life, the non-custodial parent can allege parental alienation. For example, if you need to make a medical or education decision about your children, you should approach the other parent for input. Keep in mind that the non-custodial parent still has a strong role in your children’s life. If kept out of important decisions, it may encourage distrust between you and your former spouse.
When you put your children’s needs first, it erases any doubt about your ability to act as the custodial parent for your kids.